Relationships are great, then they’re not and then again they are. The only thing I am certain about, is that all relationships can be hard at some point and that is perfectly normal. We love, we fight, we make up and in between all that it can be pretty difficult to see the romance sometimes.
1) DO IT LIKE THEY DO IT ON THE DISCOVERY CHANNEL..but like, more often
Studies have shown that even if you’re not in the mood you should do it anyway. By studies I mean that’s what I heard from Patti Stanger, and she’s basically a scientist. It’s so easy to to fall into a sexless rut when you’re in a longer term relationship, the same face day in and day out can start messing with that excitement a little bit. So even if you’re feeling like the desert & he’s limper than a dead tulip just give it a go. At some point within the session you will start to enjoy it and soon enough the drouth will pass.
2) PDA..EVERYBODY GOT TIME FOR THAT!
I’m not talking about straddling him in the middle of a restaurant (unless that’s your thing) but show him love. That physical feeling of love will also have a great effect on you mentally, both of you actually. So if you’re walking around w. your dude hold his hand, if you’re at the movies rest your arm on his lap and if you’re dancing the night away then feel free to twerk on your man.
3) BECOME PORNSTARS..WITHOUT THE GETTING PAID PART
Why not? YOLO just might work in this scenario. I don’t endorse sending nude pics to every Jo Blow but if this is your boo, then send each other little reminders of why you got together in the first place. Even better, film your slip N slide session and if you’re going down that path make sure to read my post “THE PRETTIEST POSITIONS.” Three words for you (from experience), SUCK IT IN!
4) TRAVEL AS A DUO, LEAVE YOUR FRIENDS AT HOME (sometimes)
Take a trip together, just the two of you. Group trips are great and obviously so fun..but there is something particularly romantic and sexy about taking a trip as a duo. If you have the time & means, do it big. If not, take a trip to a city that’s a few hours away. Start off with a nice dinner together (including lots of booze) and go dancing just the two of you, my guy and I have done this & have always had a blast. Make sure to do something sexy together too, whether it’s bringing in toys or acting out a specific fantasy.
5) SPOIL EACH OTHER W/ SURPRISES, SMALL OR BIG (in this case, size doesn’t matter)
Make each other feel special, however that is defined in your relationship. Buy him gifts, even if they’re small and pay attention to what he likes or has mentioned..trust me he will feel important. If he’s more of a foodie, plan an amazing gourmet dinner at home for him, possibly in lingerie and stilettos..and he can eat you for dessert!
6) PARTY AS COUPLE (sometimes) W. YOUR CREW
Girls nights are great as I’m sure are boys nights but definitely make room for nights out together, along with your friends. It’s sexy for your man to see you dancing and in your element, and vise versa. Honestly if you can’t have fun together, what’s the point of being together in the first place?!?
7) FOR GOD’S SAKE JUST GET FREAKY (freakiness is next to Godliness)
Always make it known that you are a sexual being, you never want your man to look at you like a buddy or a totally maternal figure. Once that happens you might as well say goodbye to your orgasms (minus the vibrator ones), so be adventurous and try new things in the bodouir. Ask your dude what he likes and try your best to make that happen, unless he’s asking for some nasty shit of course. Dress up for him, bring toys in, wear a wig..the possibilities are really endless.
8) BREAK ROUTINE, LIVE A LITTLE
If you never go out during the week, then plan a night and do something fun and exciting together outside of your regular shcedule. Don’t let the relationship become predictable, there is a huge difference between consistency and just being flat out boring.
9) WINE & DINE & no IN-N-OUT doesn’t count..bitch please!
Like a girl could EVER get sick of this?!? Set time aside for dating and courting, even if you’ve been together for years. I’m not talking about just going to dinner, but actually making plans, getting dolled up and looking forward to your date.
10) DON’T GET TOO COMFORTABLE, LIKE EVER
Some things should never be shared between a couple, farting, burping and number 2s definitely fall into this category. I don’t care how long you’ve been together, that just isn’t necessary & bathrooms have doors for a reason! Another thing, put effort into your appearance. Just because he loves you and knows you well doesn’t mean you should constantly walk around looking like Gollum (note to self)!!!